A Wounded Child or a Terrorist Brat? Accessing China with the Christian Voice

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There’s a popular (but, in my view, highly misguided) theory that China acts like a hurt child who needs to be coddled. The dialogue usually goes something like this. Usually, people point out that China behaves badly in human rights violations. Inevitably, the official answer is the immediate kneejerk victim drama. The China apologists would immediately say that China was a hurt child, a kind of victim from western colonialism. Its past hurt and its present inferiority complex cause it to behave badly. So, our job is to heal their wounds by talking about it and denouncing it and so on without always harping on present bad behavior in hope that the bad behavior will correct itself. I’ve seen Christian leaders who want to do more work in China fall into this communist myth and defend China’s action regardless of gravity of the situation. I say this theory is total balderdash, utter bunk. I would in fact call China a terrorist brat rather than a hurt and abused child.

According to Wikipedia, a terrorist state is one that is willing to commit acts of terrorism against a foreign target and against its own people. Terrorism, at its heart, is systemic use of violence to cause fear in a certain population in order to achieve a certain political objective. The substance of the word “terrorism” is about “terror” or fear. FBI defines an international terrorist as someone who operates outside of his own national boundary to coerce and intimidate a particular population. The common tactic of a terrorist is to threaten and kill soft targets to achieve ideological goals. We see the pattern of threat against soft targets quite often since the fateful day on June 4, 1989 at Tiananmen. According to some definitions, what happened on June 4 fits perfectly internal terrorism. That’s the most recent memory for most of the world. China’s attack at soft target has never stopped from day one. The kidnapping of Hong Kong dissident bookstore owner Lee Bo and Taiwan tourists in Kenya are just the latest examples. In Hong Kong, as we recall, Mr. Lee ran a dissident bookstore of assorted quality (I heard some of the books are good while others are very so so). In a strange turn of event, Lee called off the British help (Lee is a British passport holder) to get him released and said that he voluntarily went into the mainland. Most sources state that Lee’s statements were coerced by threats. The Taiwanese nationals who were kidnapped had already been acquitted for their alleged crimes in Kenya, but apparently, China wasn’t satisfied. So, instead of letting them leave with their Taiwanese passports, China had brought their own security force to “arrest” these Taiwanese with the cooperation of Kenya. Five men who ran that same store had been missing in the past six months, disappearing from various locations including territories not belonging to China. In many cases of such kidnappings, the usual pattern surfaces. First the kidnapping happens. Then, people discover that the kidnapped victim holds a foreign citizenship. China then is in violation of international law kidnapping its victim overseas. Finally, in dramatic fashion, the family members of the victim would plea for international community not to try to rectify the situation and that the victim somehow was either guilty of trumped up charges or was willing participant of a visit back to the motherland. How is it the ones making the plea for the international community not to go after China’s bad deeds are usually family members?

There’s only one explanation. Family members are regularly threatened within and outside of China. Do I know this for a fact? No. Do I know there have been cases like that in the past? Certainly. The hideous tactic of threatening one’s family to get compliance is a clear indicator of a terrorist state.

If we follow the metaphorical logic of China being a child, we have to say that it’s been 60 odd years and many lives lost. A one-year-old child is cute. A 60 years old child is dreadful. Why would such a theory of the wounded child even work in light of everything logical and historical? It’s because China takes the Marxist model that has a built in element of oppression. The narrative goes something like this. The peasants were oppressed. So, as victims, they rise to revolt. The so-called revolt would take on the powerful in order to finally find parity among classes. This all sounds good until the victims who stubbornly pretends to be victims forever become victimizers. A country with the most corrupt officials in the Panama Papers isn’t a victim. It’s a victor pretending to be a victim, a gangster pretending to be a gentleman sitting at the international negotiation table. This Marxist drama continues to plague us even to today. The wounded child whose wounds we can often debate has become a full-grown monster. Its terrorist action is indefensible in light of international law. Using teargas to kidnap 45 Taiwanese citizens who had committed minor crimes in Kenya in order to extradite them back to the Mainland China isn’t the action of a child. 45!!! Christians who defend that warped narrative have no excuse.

Most likely, Christian leaders who defend this myth want to do more mission in China. By defending China, they hope they can convince China to behave better. This is as absurd as the myth by Deng Xiaoping who insisted that economic growth would spur more human rights. Deng’s theory didn’t materialize thus far. Neither has the theory of China’s immaturity given any excuse for this old country. If you’ve evolved for 5000 years and remain a wounded child, something is wrong. Those Christian leaders who continue to prop up this myth should think about what they’re really thinking. Their strange psychology and delusional logic simply can’t cover up their ulterior motive. Calling China a wounded child instead of a terrorist state is like calling heaven hell or calling a deer a horse. Is preaching the gospel more important than justice? If so, then we have a very flawed gospel that is neither true to the Bible nor the church tradition nor to recent history of China. Speaking in favor of a terrorist state is a serious sin. I don’t see the same people speaking up for ISIS. Why would they do so for China? Just because they think they can get access to preach the gospel? Those who do so will risk standing under the judgment of a God they claim they believe in. It’s time to just pronounce the simple judgment. China is a terrorist state. The pussyfooting around in our churches (both Chinese and non-Chinese) should just stop!

What solution is there if we read the whole situation as diaspora Chinese looking in from the outside? I think it’s ultimately not just logical and historical but theological. Many of us diaspora Chinese (aka Chinese immigrant to the West) have forgotten that as Christians, we mistakenly thought that the MOTHER-land is China and somehow the honor of that mother deserves protection. No! Our mother isn’t China. As Christians, if we say that God is our Father, we forget that the Church is our mother. Whose honor matters most? Clearly, it’s the witness of the church for justice and truth! It’s bad to defend a whore like a mother when we’re supposed to be the Bride of Christ having received our spiritual DNA from our Mother Church. If we defend an unjust system we consider (falsely) to be our mother, we’ve sold out the real Mother and the true faith we profess to believe in. The cost is too great.

Ethical Use of Social Media: Entitlement of Opinions

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Award winning writer Harlan Ellison once said, “You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” That aphorism ought to be framed and put in front of every modern-day keyboard expert’s desk.

We live in an age where people who have never had any real life training or experience writing on subjects on how to defend themselves, people who have never fought one MMA fight talking about how the fighter ought to do this or that, people who have never thrown a rock, had a street fight or fired a gun properly talking about revolution, people who never trained at a higher level talking about fitness and strength, people who have never had extensive full-time pastoral experience talking about the problem of preaching (repeating the same sermon 100 times in 100 different churches doesn’t count), people who have only read a few books by an author writing their “expert” opinions on the author, people who have never worked in or research media writing about electronic media and people who have never served the poor talking about the poor. In other words, within our social media boom, we’ve created a whole generation of expert keyboard warriors, Facebook athletes and cyber theologians. They’re neither warriors nor intellectuals but pretenders. I love a meme on Facebook that says “May your life be as awesome as you pretend it is on Facebook.”

In this age of social media boom, all we need is an appealing website, a little blog, Instagram, youtube channel and an attractive Facebook page, we can instantly become the expert. A bit more entertainment and humor, we can practically say that the sky is green (by the way, the sky isn’t blue) and someone will believe you. Package is everything. If you dare to write, someone will dare to follow. That’s the sad reality of our times. In the social media age, we aren’t saturated with too much information. Too much information is the least of our problems. We’re saturated with too much misinformation. The easiest way to spread misinformation and half-truths is to first build a straw man to knock down. The straw man is the best friend of the intellectual eunuch. Then, after knocking the straw man down, we can quote a few famous people whose opinions seem to agree with our opinion. We can even misquote them, sometimes out of ignorance often just for rhetorical effects, in English if necessary. After all, social media is all about impact and not intent or content. Rhetoric has overtaken truth. Should it be the way forward?

There’s only one small problem with this mess: integrity. Christians who participate in the public sphere of social media have a social and religious responsibility. They can’t simply write up whatever opinion they want because misinformed and ignorant opinions don’t lead people to truth. In order to participate in the social discourse, the first thing Christians needs to do is to have integrity, and that means to discipline our keyboard activities. I’m not here talking about simply refraining from colorful language. Some of us are so pious that we think a responsible usage of blog sphere or social media is just staying away from cuss words (of course, I’m not advocating chronic cussing on social media). In fact, sometimes, colorful language may be the best way to address certain issues passionately. I’m talking about giving informed opinions that will help people to truth. The informed opinion needs to primarily inform and not go for entertainment. That’s what Donald Trump often does, to the dissatisfaction of many American people. We’re already entertaining ourselves to death via youtube or hundreds of TV channels. The last thing we need is more “Christian” entertainment. What we do need is informed opinion. No one is entitled to his opinion, especially if it misleads.

In my own life, I’m going to try to write on subjects with which I have real experience and stay away as much as I can from stuff with which I have zero experience. I hope you would do the same. May your opinion be as informed as you pretend to be on Facebook or blog sphere.

PS: Just in case anyone wonders about the list of examples I listed above, I do have experience in all my examples: martial arts, street experience from working security in college, firing a gun, full-time pastoral experience where I had to preach a “different sermon” every single week for a number of years, a PhD in Paul, around 40 published books, published research on media and preaching, set a record in lifting as well as training my younger son to set a record in lifting, camera experience from doing commercial modeling and movie/TV bit parts in LA as well as being filmed for lecture DVD’s, projects helping City Team to serve the poor, and film research.

Foolish Generous Grace

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The longer we roll around in the Christian circle, the more we’ll realize that people aren’t always grateful for our friendship. Whether political differences or misunderstanding or, worse yet, unspoken reasons, it’s easy to cut off friendship in this social media age. The thread of friendship is thinner than ever even when we have the pretense of being more social than ever.

How often do we think that we cared for this person in his time of need or helped that person in that search for a job or that we have promoted that person’s work to others or that we took care of one of their family members or defended them when people were criticizing that person? The list of favors comes into our minds when someone cuts ties with us. The more we feel like the person owes us, the more we feel indignant. The worst of course is when we try to figure out or find out directly from the other person and that person ignores us or gives us some lame passive aggression, “We ARE friends. What do you mean? You misunderstood me.” How should a Christian deal with that kind of rejection?

I think of the patron-client society of the New Testament. NT scholars have often noted that the society of the Romans, patrons would do favors for those in a lower class than they and those recipients of favors were to repay with obligations. If they didn’t and decide to be ungrateful, they would suffer reprisal from the powerful patron. While there were many exceptions, this model of describing the NT society is probably commonplace among the sociological interpreters of the NT. In such a society, grace was always filled with unspoken obligations. When you cut the strings of obligations, you also cut the ties of friendship. Powerful patrons could withhold any future favors if such a thing actually happened.

The kind of grace the NT advocates however is beyond this system, though it still works within that system. The grace of the Bible is completely free. The disciples of Jesus were the best examples of grace. As followers, they were dire failures. They failed Jesus repeatedly, but Jesus allowed them to carry his ministry on earth. Paul was one of the greatest enemies of the faith and grace allowed him to become one of the greatest influencers of the early church. What does this have to do the situation when people you have done favors for fail your friendship?

First, we have to look at what wars against grace to get a better picture of how we should respond to betrayal by those who were supposed to be friends. Obligatory transaction is the enemy of grace. Grace that’s freely given isn’t grace. Obligation ruins grace. Using others is the enemy of grace. Some see friendship as a transaction between two parties. Some purely see friendship in those transactional terms. They only show up when they need something from you, by going over the top to act as your best friend. This transactional model of friendship isn’t grace. Yet, when we first meet people, we too can fall into the thinking pattern of “Now, you owe me one.” It’s easy to think like that when we live in an age of cheap transactional friendship. However, if we think “He owes me one, but he’s so ungrateful,” then we fall into the transactional model of grace. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t learn lessons about whom to trust and distrust from life’s harsh realities, but treating friendship as means to an end (even professionally) tarnishes the relationship God had originally designed for humanity. I experience often in my professional relationships. There may even be people who want to befriend you because you have something they want. They could act like your biggest fans because by associating with you, they get what they want. They get to say, “Did you know I know so and so?” This too is a form of relational transaction. Such things reduce the beauty of relationship to a cheap self-interest or frigid judicial procedure. How do we restore the beauty of grace in light of our terribly tarnished and often selfish relationships?

These situations remind us of two things. First, it reminds us that when we do favors as a gracious Christian act, we should expect it to be completely free. Someone once told me that if I were to lend money to someone, expect to never be repaid. I suppose that’s just helping without expecting returned obligations. It seems stupid, but grace can be quite foolish in worldly standards. We Christians, as people of grace, should live graciously, but quite often, we create threads that link the recipients to our obligations of friendship and loyalty. Expect nothing! That’s grace. When we are faced with the choice between valuing grace or loyalty from others, we ought to choose grace. Second, at the same time, our hurt feelings can often be a reminder that we should value loyalty to our friends by giving loyalty. Quite often, we too fall into the trap of cheap exchanges that lack deep ties. Our hurt feelings shouldn’t cause us to be jaded. Instead, we should be more ready to give favors without expectation of returned loyalty while building loyal friendships by being loyal to our friends. If they don’t repay us with loyalty, we aren’t part of the problem. Instead, we become part of the solution. If we preach grace, we should live in grace.

 

Lessons from 25 Years of Marriage

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Today is my silver anniversary, but marriage isn’t always about silver lining in the cloud. The blog photo is us twenty five years ago. My wife and I have been married for a quarter of a century. We’ve been with each other just shy of half of our lives. This really is nothing to brag about compared to some old couples who have been married twice that long, but in our day of quick divorces, twenty five years are supposed to be a long marriage. Here, I would share lessons I’ve learned in my marriage. I’m under no illusion that we’ve gotten this whole marriage thing figured out. I’m fairly sure that we’ve got much more to learn than what we’ve learned so far. Since each marriage is unique, this is only MY lesson. It may not apply to you, but if it helps somebody, I’m glad to share it.

Quality time is also quantity time. Make time to do stuff. I think many couples get caught in the busyness of life so much so that they no longer spend time together. When they do, they celebrate it as spending quality time. Quality time can’t come without quantity time because everything worth cultivating takes time. A lot of couples thrive on spontaneity, but I think planning is underrated. My secret is planned spontaneity. Sure, the movies want us to believe that a great relationship is about ripping off our clothes and making wild love everywhere in our house with no regard for timing or occasion, but life functions the very opposite. Sometimes, we can do things on the fly, but rarely do we do it well when we don’t plan. Even if we want to surprise our other half, we may plan badly and completely flop.

Never say die. Many couples give up too easily. I certainly am not saying that all   divorces are unjustified, but many couples could’ve tried harder. Our marriage has experienced numerous trials in two specific areas: finance and relocations. With my ambition to study for my PhD, finance had been hard at times. Helen’s been quite gracious to accommodate those tough times. The worst thing is we move a lot. I don’t think we as a couple have lived in anywhere for more than 5 years. Helen is the detail-oriented person in our partnership. With every move, the details would drive both of us crazy, me being not so careful about important details and her being quite meticulous about every detail. Especially harsh are our moves across the globe to England and Hong Kong. Of all those involved, I think she sacrificed the most. Through it all, I think our commitment to each other and to our faith held us together during those hard years. By God’s grace, I hope I can stop moving now. People ask us often whether we’ve ever thought about giving up. Of course we have.  We’re human after all, but the bottom line is our commitment to each other and to God make the mess work out somehow. Marriage is an endurance race. There’s no glamor of quick successes and struggles are ugly, but we soldier on.

Overlook the small things and a few big things. Every couple fights, and with every fight, people experience anger and hurt. Sometimes, trivial things bother us. Sometimes, bigger issues make us angry. I think love is at least half blind. The sooner we accept that both we and our spouses are imperfect human beings or just humans wired differently, the happier we will be. Not everything is worth arguing over. I’m sure there’re days when Helen just wants to lay into me for some missteps, but most likely, she’s decided to overlook them because in the greater scheme of things, these things aren’t the core values of our marriage. In other words, if we have to fight, we have to fight over stuff that’s worth fighting about instead of fighting over every trivial thing. One reason why couples fight over trivial things is because they want to create their other half in their own image, and sometimes, fighting over trivial things is an excuse to take one’s anger out on hidden and more important grudges. The longer I live, the more thankful I am that Helen isn’t exactly like me. The similarity would be freaky. That acceptance should help us to iron out what exactly should be the core value of our family, and we just operate from there. The longer we’re married, the more we figure out what the petty things are. The process can be painful, but it’s well worth it.

Never correct your spouse in front of others. This is a big one. I see this a lot. Whether the issue is clothing, hairstyle or just getting some facts right, remember your other half has his or her personal dignity. No matter how right you feel you are, when you correct your spouse in public, it’s never going to end right for you. I’m talking about respect. Respect your spouse in front of others by withholding your tongue, and he or she will blossom with confidence. If you don’t, watch your other half wilt. The marriage will wilt along with the lost dignity. A professor commented to me in a counseling course during seminary that he could always tell how great a husband was by how beautiful the wife had become by being married a while to him. I hope I’ve made Helen more beautiful. I think his point is simple: dignity gives beauty genetic can’t.

Never speak for your spouse. This is a big one that’s also related to respect. I’ve seen partners representing the other half all the time in public, sometimes even with their partners present. While there’s no intent to disrespect, let’s think about this. Your spouse has her own mind and heart as well as her own mouth. She can decide on when and what to say when a topic needs to be addressed. Sometimes, when we speak for our other half, we deny her the right to speak for herself. In some relationships, this creates unnecessary conflicts. Sometimes, even when the spouse is in agreement, she still deserves the right to her own voice. If respect is one key ingredient for successful relationships, then respect is the main ingredient in this instance.

Always say something edifying, daily if necessary. Probably every failed marriage lacks one element: praise. For some reason, many are quite generous with praising others but stringent in praising their spouses. The only explanation I have is that they’ve gotten so used to living with their spouses that they’ve taken everything for granted. Sometimes, they’ve lived with their spouses so long that they saw only flaws and miss the praiseworthy. Nothing is “fresh”. Freshness is overrated. Freshness can wane, if we let it. However, if we LOOK FOR stuff to praise our spouses, we’ll inevitably find freshness. In other words, we CREATE freshness in marriage. Saying something edifying takes work and takes observation. If we can just stop and observe the good in our other half, our marriage will certainly stay fresh. The most romantic thing my wife can do in our marriage is simply saying “You know what I love about you? …” One thing I must caution couples is to never badmouth your ex’s in praise of your present partners. Comparison is always negative and can inevitably lead to unnecessary conflicts, even if the comparison is a positive one. Get your mind out of your past and focus on the present. There’s enough to focus on in the present as it is. There’s no need to drudge up the past in saying something edifying or otherwise. She doesn’t care to hear about your ex. Neither should you care. Focus on her.

Don’t change your spouse. Change yourself. So many people marry in hope that somehow their spouses over time will be the ideal they’ve been dreaming of. Never mind they themselves aren’t the ideal. The worst is when people talk about their ex’s as if their ex’s were the best thing that’s ever happened to them. Then, how did the “ex” become the ex to begin with? We can’t change our spouses. When I hear people break up badly, they often put the blame square on the other. One question I often want to ask (but don’t often do in fear of offending people) is why in fact they fell for such a terrible person in the first place to either live together or get married. Whatever fault we find before we marry will magnify manifold after. For the singles reading this blog, you should keep your eyes wide open and be realistic when you’re dating because your fantasy will ride away with your rainbow unicorn as soon as reality smacks you right in the nose. Some couples try living together for a few years. Try 25 years! As a Christian, I trust that God is changing my spouse for the better. I’m sure she can say the same thing even more so. Many of us are trying to be a therapist and a parent all at once to our spouses. Some of us even try to play God. If you want your marriage to last, you have to stop doing that. Sure, there may be critical issues that are exceptional dealing with abusive behavior or moral faults, but these are few and far between compared to the mundane and normal.

Support your spouse in front of your children. Almost nothing causes greater anxiety and insecurity among children than inconsistent parenting. Some parents play the good guy to earn the children’s good will. This unhealthy pattern creates manipulative children. More importantly, this parenting pattern hurts the marriage. When one person in the marriage tries to team up with the children for his own purpose, he robs the other person of her dignity. When we parent, we have to do it together as a team. Parenting is tough enough. Without teamwork, it’s nearly impossible to raise healthy and happy children. Obviously, I’m talking about normal household here. There’re exceptions when abuse happens. I’m not a perfect parent, but I don’t abuse my kids. I also appreciate Helen’s gentle private words to remind me of my shortcomings in parenting, but not in front of the children. Her reminder allows me to think and improve my communication with my kids. We don’t need to agree with everything our spouses do in raising our kids, but we also don’t have to make the disagreement disagreeable, unhealthy and worse of all, public.

Make time to do your own things. Helen and I couldn’t be more different. While we share some interests, we’re basically opposites. Early on, the differences can play havoc in our marriage. Over the years, we’ve learned to give each other space. Some days, she meets up with her friends in a book club to discuss the books she reads. Some days, I meet up with my soccer buddies to play ball. This healthy separation makes our time together special when we finally find something we both like to do, whether it’s as mundane as watching a TV program or as exciting as taking an exotic vacation. Every couple can find the balance between their time of separation and times together. Each couple is different, but time of separation is healthy and necessary.

Feel free to add to this list if you decide to share. Someone will benefit.

Book Review of Here I Am

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Female involvement in full-time vocational church ministry has been a hot topic among some and taken for granted by others. While it is a worthy topic to dive into both exegetically and theologically, we often miss the human dimension of this topic. We aren’t talking about women in the abstract here. We’re talking about real people leading real lives with real struggles. Here I Am provides such stories.

 

This book shares the stories of Korean-American women in full-time vocational ministry, or as Neal D. Presa the foreword writer notes, “the stories of Korean American clergywomen … by them, on their terms, in their way.”

 

In the introduction, Dr. Grace Kim, the editor, briefly surveys Asian-American immigration history.[1] She frames the arrival of Korean women to the US as a need for greater freedom from the patriarchy of the homeland. The book begins by talking about the founding of the Korean American Presbyterian Clergywomen, a twenty-five year organization providing support for those who fit the group name. The stories within this book show the varied experiences of many women. Some struggle between being a mom and being in ministry, others with being a perpetual foreigner, others with patriarchal alienation within their own faith community, and still others with sexual orientation issues. What we have in these stories are three issues and they mix nicely with each other: race, gender and sexual politics. We don’t only have a single issue though each story might emphasize one. We have a hybrid of issues. With these stories, the book discusses a theology of resistance within Korean context both here and back in the motherland.

 

One important theological point brought out by some stories is the function of the Korean church. This aspect seems universal in all Asian American circles. The elephant in the room points to the social function of such churches. If we move the discussion negatively, the church becomes an ethnic social club. If we move the discussion positively, the church is a faith community for people with the same cultural background. Either way, we need to discuss this issue. What is a church? There’s no easy answer because the church is much more than a spiritual entity. So was its predecessor: the synagogue. To deny social needs in favor of spirituality is to be unrealistic, but how much is it social and how much is it religious? These are questions some of the stories raise. Touching stories about community building, returning from exile from the immigrant church and serving the homeless informs us that the church is capable of being so much more than serving a niche ethnic group. The starting point is the ethnic niche but the horizon is almost limitless.

 

 

In reading this book as an advocate of women in ministry, I have mixed feelings. I think her basic framework probably fits some (or maybe even large) portion of the Korean population. Dr. Kim’s statistics also show that it is a problem among Koreans both here and overseas. The low statistics on Korean American women being ordained as teaching elders are quite telling of a problem. Just because it doesn’t happen as much in my own faith community, it doesn’t’ mean stories like these don’t happen in some widespread way in a certain faith community. Without any doubt, I’m not an expert on the Korean population at all. I ought to state that I’m reading this as a Chinese-American. I think the idea of patriarchal framework while still quite alive and well is really more of a passing trend now overseas at least among my own ethnic group. It would be inaccurate for me to portray simply that my birthplace (i.e., Hong Kong, a place where I travel to often) is a place of harsh patriarchy. Yet, the Asian-American milieu I know here in the US (i.e., immigrants and children of immigrants and children of children of immigrants) have a much more patriarchal framework. What is it about America that causes this framework among Asians? I believe this is something this book can potentially explore more in other narratives. I’m not saying that overseas Chinese and other Asians can’t improve on making ministerial work much more gender equal, but the Asian diaspora’s situation in general is far more dire here in the US.

 

On a much more positive note though, marginalization is a real issue as is racism. As a man, I experience such and I can’t imagine the kind of experience women must go through. This book does tell that story very well. It’s a story that denies the claim of many overly optimistic voices that claim that racism and sexism here in the US are the thing of the past. One feature that really strikes me is the way title is used to describe the various contributors. Dr. Kim holds the title “the Reverend Doctor …” which is quite peculiar. Certainly, we don’t often find this sort of title being used in most published works. I suspect that this very rich description of titles shows that for these women, there’s often a lack of recognition for their contributions, and that’s why the titles are important. By doing so, they provide a kind of literary resistance not only in talking about the problem but by active resistance in their praxis. This detail, though small, tells a great deal about the experience of these women.

 

It is also worth pointing out in reading the history that the names of certain seminaries continue to come up in the support of the work of Korean American clergywomen. While many seminaries are trying to move towards greater diversity, some mentioned here are quite active. One such example that strikes me is McCormick Theological Seminary. That effort shouldn’t go unnoticed.
Overall, I believe we need more stories being told in book form in the study of both this and the next generation of Asian diaspora. These stories should be inclusive of what’s going on here as well as what’s still going on overseas. I believe this book gives us a good conversation starter.

[1] There’re some gaps in her survey which probably shouldn’t be missed. Even though she notes Japanese, Koreans, Filipinos and Indians, she hasn’t noted the arrival of Chinese, arguably earlier than Japanese and definitely much earlier than Koreans, and later Vietnamese Americans. To her credit however, she does mention the Chinese American Vincent Chin, the victim of racist attack.

Wage Peace? Advent Culture War Cease Fire Please!

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This week and last week see us facing yet another Muslim-related firestorm. First, we have the professor from Wheaton, Lyricia Hawkins, being put on leave for her remarks about the Muslims worshipping the same god as the Christians. Then, this week, we get news that the Muslim Council of Hong Kong is going to have a missionary campaign by wearing shirts that says, “I love Jesus because I’m a Muslim.” These two events have everyone talking about what kind of God the Christians and Muslim worship. I’m not here to discuss the deep theological issues involved. What I’m here to talk about is one particular reaction by some of the Hong Kong pastors. Some, rightly or wrongly, became quite alarmed. A Christian group sent out a text to all the churches and pastors that there needs to be a response, quite possibly a negative one, towards this campaign. Who are these Muslims to say that they can use the name of Jesus in this way? Many were outraged. Without any doubt, this will deepen the already existing Islamaphobia that exists in many churches. As it happens, one of my students know one of the Muslim guys who started this campaign and lucky for us, this Muslim isn’t from ISIS. Most of the Muslims from Hong Kong many of us meet aren’t from ISIS. In fact, quite a number of them are genuinely nice.

 

While the issue can be theological regarding the t-shirt, the rhetoric is definitely and mostly cultural jihad. In a free society, where Christians are allowed to share their belief (accurately or inaccurately), Muslims are also allowed to share their belief (accurately or inaccurately). Christians MAY want to make statements to clarify or they can take other strategies. Many conservative Christians just want to launch their cultural jihad while preserving their own free speech. That just simply won’t work in any free and civilized society. EVERYONE gets the right to free speech.

 

I suggest a different path for HK Christians, both at the leadership and lay level. Why not take the path of peace? I’m not suggesting silence. Far from it! I suggest active relationship building with those who wear those t-shirts and find out from them WHY Muslims would love Jesus and what they believe about Jesus. This is a great opportunity to both build meaningful relationships with Muslims and to share our view about Jesus with them. Why not take the peaceful and missional route? After all, they aren’t the enemy. Why treat them like heretics who deserve to be burnt? In fact, many of them hold more similar values than the secular humanist.They also aren’t some leper. Why avoid them like they carry some foreign plague? They’re real human beings just like you and me (oh yeah, I know this comes as a real shock to so many of us Christians). For this Christmas, I wish for western Christians and all Christians in free societies to wage peace because God cares so much about relationships that He sent Jesus to build that peace with humanity. That really is a core message from Christmas.

 

So, Christmas isn’t about pageants in church programs or singingly biblically inaccurate carols. It isn’t just about hanging about with our own holy huddle or even our families (biological families or spiritual family). Christmas is about living out the kind of peace Jesus brought even in the midst of our chaotic and terror-filled world. If our mission is impede by hatred, paranoia and misunderstanding, we have a very weak faith. Of course, we should also pray for Christians who had to live under extremist regimes and vouch for them or work for political solutions that eliminate senseless religious extremism, but we’d better not forget our duty at home or every shadow will look like an enemy and every Bible verse will look like a bullet ready to be fired into our enemy’s head.

Speaking ABOUT Someone versus Speaking TO Someone

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Over the weeks, I’ve seen a lot of inflammatory rhetoric about Muslims in general. People make various general statements about the Muslims being this or that. I’ve addressed this on a previous post and I believe I ought to address it a bit more.

 

“Muslims are terrorists.” “Muslims are unbathed goat smelling extremists.” Of course, I just gave the most extreme statements I see, but there’re many such statements all over social media. Now imagine saying that to your friend, “Peter, you’re a terrorist” or “Jane, you’re an unbathed sour milk smelling extremist.” Well, that doesn’t sound good, does it? Most people say stuff like that because they really don’t know a single Muslim friend, let alone a bunch of them.

 

My first Muslim friend was a university roommate whose father was a Jordanian airforce general. He was finishing his engineering degree at the time. Of all my friends, he’s one of the best at keeping in touch after his graduation (which happened before mine). He would check up on me even after he landed his first job somewhere in New York City and often called me. I found him interesting because we both have habits that annoy one another. We’re culturally different, but we don’t hate each other. To my surprise, he did know the Bible fairly well and would often challenged my belief. He was often curious about the differences in our respectful faiths. We didn’t get along perfectly, but we did get along most of the time. I certainly can’t envision myself saying the above statements to his face because first, the statements aren’t true and second, we have a relationship.

 

On my weekends, I help run a soccer meet up where a group of soccer enthusiasts of all levels get together to play pickup games. Most of the time, we have a great time. Within this meet up, I’ve gotten to know quite a number of Muslims not just of middle eastern descent but from all over the world. It’s fascinating to befriend such diverse people from different culture, all saying that they’re Muslims. Now, I certainly don’t see myself saying those statements above to them. Why? It’s because we have a relationship and from what I’ve observed, they aren’t terrorists.

 

This leads to the real point of this blog post. We don’t say extreme and general (or often misinformed) statements to our friends because we have a relationship. We don’t just cite statistics and somehow think that those stats represent my friendship with my friends. When we make such statements, it’s mostly because we don’t have a relationship with these people. Quite often, due to the fact we have no relationship with such people, we make such statements out of ignorance or partial truth rather than the whole truth. Many of us refuse to make friends with them simply because our ideology tells us that they’re unworthy of our friendship. Somehow we think we’re better than they are. As a Christian however, I don’t believe I have that choice of choosing ideology over relationship. My Facebook friendship is quite varied. The reason why I don’t unfriend my ideological opposites is because I always value relationship over ideologies. I hope people will learn to build more relationships and hold on less to their ideologies because ultimately, relationships make us better people.

 

The final question to ask is, “Can your ideology survive your Christian relationships?” I have a feeling that many of us have to honestly answer “No.”

Make Disciples of All People … Except for Muslims of Course

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“…Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I’m with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28.19-20

 

I’m writing this blog post purely for Christians. So, if you aren’t a Christian, feel free to ignore (only if you wish). The above is a part of what some call the Great Commission. These are verses we often memorize even in our early Sunday School lessons, but I don’t think a lot of Christians really believe this Commission.

 

Franklin Graham, in a Facebook post on December 9, wrote that he’s opposed to receiving Muslim immigrants until they’re properly vetted. In his post, he agreed with Donald Trump on a similar point. I believe that his concerned about security is real. At the moment, our government does have a stricter vetting procedure than a lot of Europrean countries. There’s extensive followup on the refugees as well once they’ve entered in the country. The problem isn’t always what Graham says. The problem is the position from which he wrote those things.

 

Graham, as most of us know, is the head of a mission organization that organizes the Operation Christmas Child/Samaritan Purse campaign. He’s done some good work among the poor. More importantly, the organization is mission-based. All mission organizations recognize at least the importance of the Great Commission. By the traditional idea of mission, we send missionaries OUT THERE to convert the pagans. However, it’s important to note that mission these days also involves home mission. Mission is no longer out there. Mission is both home and abroad. This brings us back to Graham and his supporters.

 

Graham, like so many other Christian leaders, isn’t qualified to speak to national security issues. He doesn’t work for the FBI or CIA. He really doesn’t know enough to say whether we have a good enough vetting procedure or not. What he does know is Jesus’ teaching. He should know that Jesus’ Commission is pretty much indiscriminate. In fact, Jesus’ saying could be translated, “As you’re going, make disciples …” In other words, wherever God’s people settle, mission should happen. At least, that’s what Jesus seems to have taught. We must notice straight away that the Commission also talks about all nations or people. The Greek word for “nations” is where we get our English word “ethnic” from. It basically means people groups. Sometimes, the word is used in contrast against the word “Jews” to denote gentiles (Acts 14.5; Romans 3.29). In other words, all sorts of people groups, even (or especially) groups that are quite different from us deserve to have the chance to become the disciples of Jesus. Jesus didn’t say, Make disciples of all nations except for Muslims.

 

The implication of Graham’s rant from the stance of a mission organization is alarming. It really means that even if these other people groups come into the US with some of them coming into the Christian message for the first time, we Christians (especially many conservative Christians like Graham) aren’t ready to welcome them. Never mind what Jesus said. This is a very serious problem. A mission organization refusing to do home mission shows that we have lost the sense of mission. With that mentality, our mission is really very selective based solely on our personal interests and safety. Let’s face it, we aren’t ready for mission. Even if the refugees come into contact with our message, we aren’t ready to help them understand it because we ourselves aren’t practicing what we preach. If what Graham said represents the vast majority of evangelical Christian mindset, we aren’t even ready to live out our faith, let alone mission.

All Lives Matter … Except for My Enemies’

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You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Matthew 5.43-48 (NIV).

 

I call this passage the “terrible commandment”. It teaches a kind of love that borderlines on insanity. This week, we had the tragic shooting of San Bernardino, California, a relatively quiet and sleepy community (in comparison to LA). Now is a good time for prayer for the victims and their families and of hoping for the justice against perpetrators of terror all over the world. The tragedy also provides an opportunity to talk about lots of issues such as guns, Syrian refugees and of course terrorists, but I’m not here to talk about governmental policies on these issues (though we certainly need to dialogue more about governmental policies that can guarantee justice and protection for its citizens). Neither am I talking about combative situations where soldiers have to kill or be killed. This post is much more basic than that. This post is written for Christians addressing a very narrow and basic issue. I’m here to talk about Jesus’ teaching and how it impacts our personal piety. If you aren’t a Christian, you can think that I’m a moron. I’m okay with that because sometimes, my gospel is that foolish.

 

In the process of my discussion with people, I notice a trend among Christians. This is truer for many of my white Christian friends than friends of other backgrounds. The same people that respond to the “black lives matter” movement with “all lives matter” also respond most violently against Muslims and in most cases, against ALL Muslims. I find this so interesting because if ALL lives matter, then should there be exceptions? I hear a lot of silence even among well-known Christian leaders about this question.

 

When we say all lives matter, we aren’t really saying that all lives matter. We’re merely saying all lives of those with whom we can identify or love matter. All lives matter except for some! In our present case, we’re talking about the Muslims among us. I don’t think many Christians will be too sorry (let’s be really honest here) if a few Muslims were gun down here in the US in the aftermath of San Bernardino.

 

Many pay lip service to following Jesus, but in all reality, most don’t understand how tough and crazy Jesus’ teachings are. They enjoy praying to him for things, but they don’t enjoy listening to him for change. In Matthew 5.43-48, Jesus wasn’t “suggesting” some self-therapy advice; he was commanding us to love our enemies. It’s hard enough to pray for people we don’t know, but Jesus was talking about praying for people we KNOW to be enemies. I personally struggle with that. In such situations, sometimes cuss words might come out while I pray. Who knows? Many Christians plain ignore it. Others refuse to acknowledge that they too struggle with this command. Many mistakenly see the enemy as some abstract thing “out there” we can pray for, but Jesus is talking about known enemies, real people. I have a number of Muslim friends. I have no problem praying for them. I have no problem praying for victims or advocating for better usage of guns. That’s easy. Is it ever easy for me to pray for the enemies? No, it isn’t. Jesus wasn’t asking us to do the easy thing.

 

What does our treatment of our enemies look like? I hear a lot of people who don’t even have a single Muslim friend saying that no Muslim leader was denouncing such acts of terror and the leaders are as guilty as those who do this terrible thing. In fact, many Muslim leaders did denounce and have continued to denounce such acts of terror. However, many Christians, in their tone-deaf politics, ideology and hatred, have already made up their minds that these Muslims, all lumped into one group, are either actively or passively guilty of terrorist acts. In the situation of the US, treating others like the enemy means to demonize others without even identifying who the real enemy is. In reality, many Muslims are more than willing to be partners with Christians in many parts of the world to make the world a more peaceful place. Many American Christians have had their minds made up to hate, and that’s that.

 

Is it possible that when push comes to shove, when matters really reach a boiling point, we’d rather choose being a good and safe American over being a radical and unsafe Christ follower? It’s easy to act Christian when nothing is at stake but when everything is at stake, I see a lot of Christians turning tails from Jesus’ teaching to their violent and vitriolic rhetoric. These aren’t the days we can be proud of as Christ followers. Their patriotism to America has completely overrun their loyalty to God’s kingdom.

 

I know a young man who was a child soldier, your stereotypical terrorist. I will withhold his name and identity because those aren’t really the point. He was conscripted into a terrorist troop in Africa (I won’t tell you which country) after terrorists slaughtered his family right in front of his eyes. His life was full of bitterness and hatred. One day, he had the chance to escape from this destructive life he left behind and made his trek across country lines to find asylum. Eventually, he moved to a developed country where they accepted him only as an asylum seeker but no possibility of full citizenship (at least not without great difficulty). He had no employment prospect. As a result, he turned to a life of crime and was eventually arrested. While incarcerated, someone from the church began visiting him and sharing the Christian faith with him. He later found the Christian faith. Since then, he went to the local university making honors grades and married a local girl. Today, he’s one of the most productive, joyful and helpful young men I’ve ever met in my life. If no one bothered to visit him in his alienated state, I don’t think he would be the man he is today. I believe in the redeeming power of the gospel. I don’t think many Christians do. So, during this Advent, why would anyone believe in this fairy tale about some divinely born baby that was supposed to save humanity from their sins (Matthew 1.21)? We don’t even believe in redemption ourselves.

 

Many of my readers will think that this passage has nothing to do with us because honestly, Jesus’ time is very different from ours and surely “enemies” doesn’t mean the same thing. I’m here to tell you that Matthew was writing to a church that was undergoing alienation and oppression. They knew what persecution means. If what we read in history was accurate, Matthew’s readers had already seen crucifixion and burning of Christ followers by Nero and many other forms of barbaric acts against those who believed in Jesus. They also knew about the destruction of Jerusalem where many were killed by Roman soldiers. They weren’t as ignorant or somehow idealistic as we often presuppose. Matthew wasn’t writing some ideal. He was recording Jesus’ commands for believers to follow in his time and ours.

 

So, before you say “all lives matter” again and appeal to the fact that God thinks all lives matter, think really hard about what you’re really saying because to God, all lives truly matter, Muslims and Christians, gentiles and Jews, enemies and friends. We really should hear what we’re saying or such sayings are mere polemical platitude against ideologies we don’t agree with. In the internet age that is devoid of substance, it’s yet anther case of blowing in the wind. I personally am not hopeful that this post would get shared because honestly most Christians care more about what their neighbors think than what their invisible Jesus thinks. Call me a bleeding heart liberal if you will. I prefer to see myself as a Christ follower who continues to wrestle with Jesus’ issues in our world. Sometimes, I think it takes more courage to love than to hate, to pray than to avenge. Now may be such a time, lest we betray the very gospel we preach.

What the Annoying Christmas Songs Mean to Me

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I’ve heard a lot of stuff about war on Christmas by Christian preachers. I’m sure my atheistic friends (yes, I do have a few of those) would think that this blog post is about that. I hate to disappoint you. I’m not going to preach about the war on Christmas. My Christian friends (I have loads of those) probably think that I’m going to talk about the general meaning of Christmas or what the real meaning of Christmas or some other historical facts about Christmas (due to the fact that I’m a New Testament PhD). Well, I’ve covered those in a series of Advent blogs in my previous years. So, again, I’m going to disappoint you. I’m not going to talk much about that either. Instead, I’m going to please neither atheists nor Christians by talking about what Christmas means to me when I hear the too-early Christmas carols in the stores.

 

When I hear the songs in the store, I always smile because this is (cliche warning) the “most wonderful time of the year.” This is the year my older son left home to go to the university. He’s done quite well. When I hear the songs, they remind me that he’s going to be home soon, and I can’t wait. I think of the time he was my best lifting partner in our home gym, always knowing when to spot me and when to let me push through. I also remember his wise reminder, “Dad, are you sure your back can handle it? I think you’re a bit injured. Maybe you should rest it today instead of putting twenty more pounds on the deadlift. Your right shoulder doesn’t look good today. Maybe ease up on the incline bench before you seriously hurt yourself.” He’s my lifting conscience. I’m also reminded of the times when we got into heated disagreements probably not because either one of us was entirely wrong but because we’re so much like each other with strong personalities, strong principles and even stronger opinions. I miss my older son (the one on the right in the photo). When I hear the song, I also recall that this is the time when I have to lift alone in that frigid weight room because my little sophomore son, the other “best” lifting partner (the one on the left in the photo), is going to be in wrestling practice or the school gym to get strong and technical for yet one more varsity season. It’s a reminder to put on lifting gloves not because I’m afraid of callouses but because the bar is so unbearably cold. The gym misses the heat of the two boys.

 

Christmas is the time when we spend one of the few days off as a family. My wife usually gets very little time off because she works IT for a giant fashion retailer. Christmas is a busy time for retailers. My little one gets almost no time off as he has to go to wrestling practices to prepare for a huge state-wide tournament during Christmas break. There’s always practice on December 26. The team must be ready to roll. My older son would be the only one on break until his university starts up again. I always fly out early on December 26 because there’s always someone inviting me to teach or speak somewhere, and usually I fly somewhere far far away for half a month, but I’m not complaining. The bills have to be paid and my students and readers always warmly welcome me. So, I will probably get my last heavy workout in to make sure I’m in good shape before flying (this year, I squat on Christmas day).

 

Christmas morning is one day when we will sleep in to whenever we feel like. So, Christmas is precious in my household where we sit back and perhaps watch some of the football or soccer games we DVR’d or rent a DVD. My lovely wife usually makes a production of cooking and baking. Luckily she’s the best baker because if I were to do the baking or cooking, our entire family would be eating some very lousy food. I can almost smell the raspberry chocolate cake. For just one day, both my little one (who’s on strict diet for wrestling) and I will slightly indulge ourselves while looking at the snow outside our beautiful neighborhood. These are the happy memories of Christmas. This to me is the big picture in my mind.

 

What I’m sharing above is only one interpretation of Christmas because other things do matter, things such as Christmas being a consumer holiday that has stopped being meaningful. I get that! Or the historical facts that Christmas probably wasn’t in the winter and Bethlehem wasn’t snowy are important. I get that too! And there’s the Syrian refugee crisis and the homeless in the cold areas of our inner cities. Goodness, we certainly can’t forget those poor folks. Various charities are going to raise some money from do-gooders to help these folks. For some, Christmas is a time when they suffered loss of loved ones. It isn’t a joyous time. I accept that. Our lives shape how we experience Christmas. Christmas isn’t merely a historical event that requires us to dissect its meaning based on this or that fact so that we can feel good about how righteous we are or how wrong others are. History is important, but how we interpret history matters. Neither is Christmas some kind of celebration that should make us fight self-righteously about this or that ideology. And self-righteousness exists in abundance on both sides of the fence whether one is pro or against Christmas. All this takes away the experience of Christmas.

 

As a Christian, I’m going to conclude about the universal (i.e., for people of faith or no faith) significance of Christmas ironically through the exclusively Christian lens. When Jesus came to identify with weak humanity, he came with a goal towards a tragic death. Yet, he came as a baby, tolerating our every experience and bearing with our many shortfalls. While standing up for truths, he stood tolerantly with those who might be rejects of society. He even stood with those with different moral or ideological standards than he. The true experience of Christmas demands that we open up our hearts just a little to empathize with other meanings of Christmas for all people and take it a little easier on others who have a different interpretation of Christmas, whether they’re Christians or not. We do so in the way Jesus opened up his mission to everyone. If someone doesn’t enjoy Christmas, find out why instead of forcing that person to enjoy Christmas. If someone enjoys Christmas, don’t rain on his or her parade. Why be such a pain in the neck and spoil sport? Why sweat the small stuff? Christmas isn’t merely about tolerance of different ideas. It’s about learning to empathize behind different voices not by talking AT them, but by listening TO them. We can’t understand everyone’s interpretation of Christmas, but we can take the chance to listen and build meaningful relationships. On that note, I wish everyone a happy holiday and of course, a very early merry Christmas.

 

 

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